I am a product of two parents who sit on opposite ends of the pack rack spectrum. There’s my dad, who is literally pained to throw anything away. Things hold meaning and sentimental value in his eyes, and he believes that wastefulness is a sin. Then there’s my mom, who hates clutter and doesn’t have a problem throwing things away. Things are just things to her and she doesn’t get too attached. I can still hear the words she frequently said to me growing up when I’d profess love for a pair of jeans or new jacket I just had to have: “Don’t love something that can’t love you back.”
So where, exactly, do I sit on this spectrum? Firmly in the middle. Like my mom, I despise clutter and am okay with throwing things away to keep it at bay. Yet I still have a lot of my dad in me. Sometimes things do hold sentimental value. And the thought of being wasteful makes me feel really, really guilty.
Keep all of that in mind when I talk about my clothes closet today. First of all, I didn’t get the best before pictures. I thought photographing food was hard, but let me tell you, trying to capture awkward interior spaces is much more difficult. So you may not be able to get the breadth of just how many clothes I had and how cluttered the space was through the pictures. I’ll have to do an adequate job with my words.
Here’s a look at my pants, skirts, dresses, and shorts. The picture should extend more to the left because there were about two or three times as many pants as you can see.
Here’s a look at t-shirts, camis, and workout clothes. For some reason, I didn’t get a before shot of my tops. I’m sure I got interrupted and forgot I hadn’t finished getting pictures of the whole closet.
When I was going through this process, I asked myself four questions when deciding if I wanted to keep something or put it into the donate pile.
1. Have I worn this in the last year?
If the answer was no, it got tossed in most cases. If the answer was yes, I went on to the next question.
2. If I had nothing else to wear in my closet, would I be happy to wear this?
This helped only hold on to things that I really love. Given the right season and occasion, I wanted to make sure that I’d be happy to wear something if it was my only choice.
3. Is this item in good condition?
Strangely enough, this one was the hardest for me. I quickly realized I was holding on to clothing that I really loved, but wasn’t in great shape. I had a hard time getting rid of something that I’d loved and worn a lot, but had a small stain or hole.
4. Is this item flattering/does it fit well/is it still in style?
I was also holding on to some clothes that while I loved the look and style of them in general, they weren’t the best fit. Over the years I’ve gotten a better idea of what clothes work better for me than others, and I had a lot of clothes to get rid of that were just ill-fitting. Other things, while I loved them, were not in style anymore. (Yes, that tells you a bit about how long I keep things!)
These questions were a great guide for me as I decided what to keep. I started out with a small pile of clothes. It grew and grew into a mountain.
It just kept growing until I had two large industrial size garbage bags full of clothes.
These garbage bags stand almost as tall as me and are too heavy for me to lift. About 3/4 of the contents are my clothes, the remaining 1/4 is filled with Tim’s clothes.
I have to say, getting rid of things is hard, yet soul cleansing. I was happy to finally get a lot of it out of my closet. You wouldn’t believe some of the clothes I had. Sports bras from college with barely any stretch in the elastic. Why did I keep them? Just why? Mini jean skirts from my 20s. Just in case? Shorts from high school. Guys, I graduated a long time ago.
Other things I tried to fight with myself to keep.
But it’s my college graduation dress! I really should keep it even though it is totally out of style. The memories!
No. You have pictures of college graduation. You don’t need the dress.
This pleather skirt was so cool. Maybe I’ll have an occasion to wear it?
Ummmm….you haven’t worn it in 12 years for a reason. No.
This was a gift! Shouldn’t I keep it?
NO.
In the end, I feel so freeeeeee!
I have so much less stuff.
Clean, organized spaces make me happy.
I’ve decided that spring cleaning is kind of like free therapy.
I had a little help from this guy.
Now I will admit I still have a lot of clothes. I like clothes. And certain things, I just couldn’t part with. This shirt wins the award for oldest piece of clothing in my closet.
I bought this shirt when I was 15 years old, which makes it 22 years old! I still wear it. It’s the perfect casual weekend shopping kind of shirt. It looks like there’s a stain on it in this picture, but I don’t think there is. Must have been the light? Anyway, I’ll probably only get rid of it when it falls apart.
I’m sorry about the poor lighting of these pictures. The lighting in my closet isn’t exactly ideal for photographs. I think you get the idea of what a drastic transformation my closet went through this week.
If you haven’t cleaned out your clothing closet lately, I urge you to do it. Ask the four questions about each item you own. In the end, you will feel amazing!
Katy says
You have motivated me! Tonight I’m going to attack my closet. Thank you!
Maryea says
You’re welcome! 🙂
Leigh Anne says
way to go!! Doesn’t it feel great!! I recently realized that a local consignment store takes clothes that are stained, out-dated, etc….to a recycling company. For some reason that was freeing for me to not just throw those away but know they had a new purpose! I still donate or consign the pieces that are nice & good condition. It’s funny the things that we hang on to! I’m in the middle of the save/toss camps too. I did a deep closet cleanse a year ago but it’s time to revisit. Love your questions! Helps keep focused! I also ask “can I wear this with 3 different things I already have”? Also TRY to ask that question when I’m buying too :)).
Erin says
Rock star!! This is really inspiring. Thanks for the tips! 🙂
Maryea says
You’re welcome. 🙂
Marina says
Your closet looks much better, however, did you think about organizing your tops by color? This way it always looks neat and organized:)
Maryea says
I had them like that before actually. I changed them this time to be organized by style (all the button down shirts together, all the flowy blouses together, etc.) rather than color as I thought that would be more practical. I do love the look of them being organized by color, but it annoyed me when I was looking for a certain kind of top and they weren’t all together. 🙂
Lee says
Have you heard of the book, “The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up”? It talks a lot about only saving clothing that inspires joy.
Maryea says
No but it sounds like a good read! I do think tidying up is life changing magic. 🙂