You can read Luke’s birth story: part 1 here
The hospital is a 20 minute drive from our house. Meghan was just getting back from a walk around the neighborhood to look at Christmas lights with her grandparents as we were leaving. Tim rolled down my window and I managed to say a quick good-bye, even though getting the words out and trying to look normal to my 3 year old were difficult tasks.
The next 25 minutes was the most excruciating car ride ever. Powerful contractions kept coming two minutes apart. Despite how intense they were, I felt like the biggest wimp. Why am I in so much pain? I haven’t been in labor that long. My mind was filled with doubt.
Based on how long I’d been laboring, I assumed that the most I’d be dilated was six centimeters. I couldn’t imagine continuing with what I was feeling for much longer. All I could think about was getting an epidural and having the pain be gone. I couldn’t even argue with myself–the pain had taken over all of my resolve to have natural childbirth.
We arrived at the hospital and parked in the parking garage. Just as we were about to walk in the door, another contraction hit. It brought me straight to my knees. I couldn’t care about the people walking in and out, who must have been staring at me.
There happened to be a hospital worker getting off his shift who noticed me. He dropped his bag, turned around, and got me a wheel chair. Bless his heart. He wheeled me into the elevator and up to the maternity floor. In that time I had another contraction.
At the check in desk, the nurses were nonchalant as they asked us what we needed. They continued to chat amongst themselves as one nurse asked us questions to check us in. Then, another contraction hit. At this point I wasn’t exactly quiet about my contractions. That got them moving a little quicker.
As they led me to my room, I looked at Tim.
“I know I said I didn’t want an epidural, but I need one. I really, really do. I need one. You have no idea how much this hurts,” I pleaded.
“I think this is where I’m supposed to talk you out of it. Are you sure, Maryea? You’re doing great; do you really want an epidural?” He asked, clearly trying to follow the plan we’d discussed.
“I do! I need one!” At this point I wasn’t thinking about anything but having the pain stop. Dear God, let it stop.
In the room the nurse gave me a gown and sent me to the bathroom to put it on. And, big surprise here, while trying to change I had another contraction. Those bad boys were relentless.
I somehow managed to get the gown on and get myself onto the bed.
One nurse said, “Okay, let’s get her IV going.” Even though in my birth plan I stated I didn’t want an IV for hydration, I was beyond caring at this point. Even though I’d drank coconut water at home to help me with hydration, I was extremely thirsty and thought I might actually need the fluids. Besides, being able to move freely wasn’t a concern for me anymore.
A nurse was firing off a million questions that I had to answer. Somehow having to say (shout?) “No!” to the question, “Did you do any heroin during your pregnancy?” made the pain seem worse.
Finally the nurse was ready to check my cervix to see how far I was dilated. As she was checking me, Tim was stumbling through my bag looking for my birth plan. I had multiple copies neatly typed up for all the nurses. Before he had a chance to pass them out, she was finished checking me. She didn’t say anything.
“What am I dilated?!” I asked, incredulous that she didn’t say a word. I thought it must be bad news. Five? Six?
“Well, I need to have someone come and double check for me, but I think you are complete.”
Complete? As in 10 centimeters complete? Tim put the birth plans back into my bag.
Later, Tim told me that I replied, “Does that mean I can’t have an epidural?”
I don’t remember saying that, but I do remember thinking, I’m ten centimeters! That means I can start pushing soon and this will be over. I can do this!
To hear that I was completely dilated was the biggest relief and provided just the boost I needed to keep going.
When the second nurse was checking me, I knew I was going to need to push soon. She urgently said, “Yes, she’s complete. Call her doctor!”
I started pushing with my contractions. There was no way I could hold back. One nurse said, “Don’t push!”
“I have to!” I cried.
“Oh, let her push,” said a second nurse.
Someone walked in the room and said, “Her doctor’s on the phone and wants to talk to one of you.”
“Did you tell him she’s complete?”
“Yes, I told him. But he still wants to talk to you.”
“Well tell him to get his butt here! She can’t stop pushing and the baby’s moving fast!”
I don’t know how she knew this, but I was glad to hear it. I was also nervous that my doctor wasn’t going to make it as he lives in the same town I do, 20 minutes from the hospital. Would all that praying and focusing on going into labor when my doctor was on call be in vain?
Another doctor was brought in the room and stood in the corner as I just continued having contractions and pushing. Even though I was pushing during my contractions, it wasn’t productive pushing. I wasn’t in a good pushing position and I suppose the nurses just wanted me to wait until my doctor got there to really do it right.
Finally, my doctor arrived. I may have heard angels singing as he walked in the door.
He quickly got himself ready and helped me get into a better position. He looked me straight in the eye and said, “Okay, let’s have this baby.” His kind eyes and comforting words spread over me like a warm blanket in the winter. I was ready to do it.
After my first push, he told me I was going to tear and needed to do a “little cut”. After a tear-free birth with Meghan, I was upset to hear this, but he later told me how fast births are much more likely to tear and I was lucky that I only needed a very small cut (one stitch).
With another strong push, I knew the baby was crowning. It was energizing just knowing that he was so close to being born. Two more pushes and he was out.
The doctor exclaimed, “You did it!”, quickly followed by, “He’s a big baby!”
My first words were “He’s so cute! He’s the cutest thing I’ve ever seen!” It was an exhilarating moment. All the pain I’d just finished enduring seemed to evaporate in an instant as I looked at my fresh baby boy.
I was able to hold him immediately and my heart burst with joy and love. I looked over at his daddy and he was crying as he watched us both.
Looking back, this is the birth that I envisioned during my pregnancy. I hoped for a quick labor with minimal time at the hospital. We arrived at the hospital at 7:30 PM and Luke was born at 8:15 PM. I really wanted to have my doctor there to deliver the baby and he was.
Was every detail perfect? No, of course not. But I could not ask for a more perfect family for me and wouldn’t change a moment of this story.
The result was totally worth every detail.
Sarah says
You are amazing. And beautiful! Your whole family is beautiful! I’m so excited for all of you!
Michaela says
I am so glad it worked out for you two 🙂
Shannon says
I have been dying to hear the end of the story. You are amazing and I am so proud of you. Miss you lots and hope to meet Luke! Love ya
Tina @ Best Body Fitness says
GAH! Amazing birth story and it has me all teary. Congratulations, Maryea! He is beautiful. Hugs, hugs, and more hugs to you!
Anna Jorgenson says
AWESOME!!! Way to go!!! I’m sharing your story with my pregnant friends who are interested in a natural birth, but are scared. I definitely think the key is staying home as long as you can just like you did. Thank you for sharing your very inspirational story.
Maryea says
YES! Staying home as long as possible is definitely the key. Looking back, I should have known I was in the transition stage and getting close to the end, but I just didn’t believe that it would move so much more quickly the second time. I’m so glad I was wrong!
Helen says
That was such a touching and beautiful story. Thank you for sharing it with us. After having two babies of my own I know that things never go as you plan them to, but you are blessed to have yours so close to your own plan. Congratulations he is adorable!!
Cary says
Way.To.Go!!! Sorry they asked you the questions before checking you. You did awesome! Congrats to the whole lovely family!
Aleaha says
Beautiful.
Alison says
Oh Maryea that was so wonderful to read. I had hoped/guessed you were going to be near complete by the time someone checked you at the hospital! I’m so glad it all went so smoothly all things considered and that you got so much of what you wanted! Congrats to you again and I hope you’re all transitioning well as a family of four!
Christy Theodorou says
U r brave my friend! U just made me excited for the delivery of our little one but also reminded me how painful it actually is! Congratulations on Luke and God Bless your beautiful family! XOXO
Maryea says
It definitely hurts. But so so worth it. 🙂 I already forget how bad it was. Almost.
Julie H. of Spinach and Sprinkles says
You did it, Maryea! That is so very exciting! My heart just bust with happiness for you and each member of your family! That is truly amazing! What a complete blessing from God! …..I loved reading both parts of your birth story and how that precious little boy joined the family. All those prayers for your doctor to be there were answered and all of those prayers for a healthy Baby Bean- you were blessed with a beautiful and healthy baby LUKE! 🙂
Candy @ Healthy in Candy Land says
Hooray! I am so glad you had an experience you are happy with! And you did it! You may have doubted yourself, but ultimately you did what you wanted, and for that you should be very proud. Plus, you now have two beautiful kids to share your life with. Thanks for sharing with us!
chelsey @ clean eating chelsey says
WOW!!! That was a quick labor and delivery there! Luke is perfect – congrats again!
Felicia (Natural+Balanced) says
amazing story!! you had me in tears. what a strong woman you are!! congratulations again, such a beautiful family!
Lisa says
What a beautiful story! And, your family is so perfect, Maryea. Now, you get to have fun making beautiful memories with Meghan and Luke. Congrats to you!
Jillian says
Wow, great job Maryea! You are one tough cookie. 🙂 He is so beautiful. I can’t wait to see more pics of him.
Kelli H (Made in Sonoma) says
YAY! I’m so glad you were able to do it naturally! What a champ. 🙂
I’d be totally annoyed if they asked me if I did heroin during my pregnancy.
Your story is the third one I’ve read where each woman thought “I’m being such a wimp!”, and then they get to the hospital and their ready to push! I seriously hope someday I am the same. haha.
Congrats again!
Lee says
Love the family photo at the end. Glad the delivery was quick. Is “have you done any heroin?” a normal question to ask?!
Michaela says
I was wondering the same!! I have actually never heard of this.
Amanda says
I’m wondering, too!
Maryea says
I guess it is standard procedure to ask if the mother has drank alcohol or done drugs during the pregnancy. I can’t remember if they were that specific when I had Meghan or not. Very strange.
KristenP says
Wow, Maryea, you did an amazing job telling your story – you had me in tears (I’m 30 wks pregnant, so that might have something to do with it, too!)! You should be so proud of yourself, it sounds like you really powered through a painful labor and birth. I’m hoping to have a drug-free birth, too, but I remember from my first birth how tempting those epidurals can be! I’m glad you’re satisfied with your experience. Enjoy that beautiful baby boy!
Maryea says
Good luck with your birth! Yes, epidurals are so tempting when you are in the moment of total pain. Luckily when I was at the stage when I really thought I wanted/needed it, it was too late! I’m grateful for that.
Rashmi from Yumkid.com says
Congratulations Maryea! He’s finally here and he’s perfect!